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“I can’t stand it when mom’s always on my case,” I complained to my 18-year old sister as I drove her to school that morning. My sister gave me an I-know-how-you-feel look. My mom had just given me a “sermon” about how I was careless about my personal finances. As I drove away after dropping my sister off, I reflected back on the fight I had with my mom that morning. Was she right? Did she always know everything?
I was only four years old when my dad left us. My mom had to bear numerous humiliations because divorce in India was unheard of. She had not even finished her college education. How was she going to support us? Luckily for us, we had our grandparents to help us out. She soon realized that she would have to do the unthinkable, leave her children for three years to come to US so she could build a life for us.
I still remember the day she left. I was nine years old and my sister was five. I held on to her white shirt soaked with tears begging her not to go. After all, what was I supposed to do without a mom and a dad? She looked deep into my eyes and said “I love you and I hope you’ll realize one day what I am about to tell you. Whenever you feel sorry for yourself, remember that it can always be worse. You can cry and pity yourself at our situation or you can rise from it. You can dwell on the fact that your childhood is not the way you had wanted it to be, or you can learn from it to better your future.” Those words stayed with me forever.
My mother taught me one of the most important lessons in life. We cannot change our past and the fact that people act a certain way. We most definitely cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is change our attitude! My mom taught me to smile in the hardest of times. She showed me how to be extraordinary, she showed me to be the best, and she showed me how to make a difference!